Dr. Kimberly McLeod seated, resting her chin on her hand.

You are not here to endure.You are here to return.

Choosing Me reveals how the performing self, the identity built through adaptation, expectation, and survival, keeps you from living as your authentic self.

Choosing Me by Dr. Kimberly McLeod, front cover.

The performing self was a survival strategy, not your identity.

It protected you. It helped you survive. But it was never meant to be the life you live. Honor what it did. Release what it costs.

A woman in plain clothes facing a mirror that shows her in a tailored suit and red cape.
AdaptYou learned to fit in.
A woman in a black blazer facing a mirror that shows her in gold armor and a red cape.
PerformYou learned to keep up.
A woman facing a mirror that shows her calmly, in the same clothes she is wearing.
AwakenYou can choose you.

The PIPES Effectiveness Map™

What is resourcing you, and what is quietly draining you?

Name one goal. Explore five areas of your life. See where your energy is being supported, depleted, dominated, or held in what has not yet been released.

Take the six-minute map

Your complete interpretation will be emailed to you.

Physical
Resourcing

This area is supporting your goal.

Intellectual
Draining

This area is depleting your energy.

Psychological
Dominating

This area is controlling more than it should.

Environmental
Unreleased

This area holds what is not yet released.

Social
Resourcing

This area is supporting your goal.

See your pattern. Change your pattern. Live from your truth.

Dr. Kimberly McLeod.

Welcome, I’m Dr. Kimberly McLeod.

Professor. Counselor. Executive coach. Organizational leader. Author.

For more than two decades, I’ve helped individuals and organizations navigate identity, belief, change, and the hidden costs of performance.

Choosing Me is the book I needed as much as the ones I’ve served. It is both a mirror and a map, and an invitation to choose yourself without apology.

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A Declaration

I am done abandoning myself.

I choose me.

Not once. Daily. Again and again, until choosing me is simply who I am.